Preteen Guidebook


A Support Guidebook for Preteens When Your Parent Has Cancer 

If you are ages 9-12 years old and your parent or grandparent has been diagnosed with cancer, this guidebook is for you.

This resource is to help you explore and learn more about what it means to have a parent or grandparent with cancer. You are probably experiencing a wide range of thoughts and feelings like anger, sadness, fear, and worry. These are all very real and normal feelings. You are not alone.

This book will explore:

  • Cancer basics
  • Thoughts and feelings
  • Coping and support ideas

What do you know about cancer?

Cancer is a scary word, isn’t it? What does having cancer even mean? Does cancer mean your mom or dad will die? Here are some basics to understand right away. Pay attention to the bold words as you read.

You did not cause your parent or grandparent’s illness.

There is nothing you said or did that caused this. Doctors still do not fully know what causes cancer, but they are doing their best to learn more about it every day. The most important thing to know is that you are not to blame.

You are not alone.

There are other kids experiencing the same feelings that you are right now. Many feel alone and scared, like you do. If you aren’t yet ready to talk to your mom, dad, or grandparent, you might want to find a school nurse or an aunt or uncle to talk to. Sometimes talking to an adult can help you feel better. You are not alone.

For questions about this guidebook, or to have a telephone consultation, please contact Sarah Manes at (612) 627-9000 ext. 508 or